How do you keep the fire burning?

I’ve been wanting to blog about this even before I cam across this contest Mommy Ro is hosting. But you know, I’ve broken my promise to blog more often a lot of times already so I’m trying again now.

How do you keep the connection going on? This is the question most couples face after undergoing a very big change in their lives. In our case, that would be having our little Ayex.

There were times when I would think Mon and I are losing our connection. We were or should I say I was beginning to concentrate all my excess energy after work for Ayex. I thought that was right, put your child first before your spouse. Wrong! Big mistake. Ate Meriam, our dear helper, told me that you should take care of your spouse first because your relationship with him/her affects your child. It is hard. But thinking about it makes me realize that it is logical.

Now, even if we’re tired, we still manage to bond every now and then. Simple visit to our favorite isawan makes us both very happy and giddy. If work permits, we leave the office early and head somewhere else before heading home like the mall. We dine out once every month and we try places we’ve never been to. In the evening, while putting Ayex to bed, we talk about anything and everything that happened to our day. When I’m not lazy and Ayex is not being jealous, I give Mon a quick back massage. I also realize now how I love cooking for him, although that does not happen every day.

I thought we were spending too little time together nowadays. It might be true. But writing about it now, I realized that we do not need 24 hours together to say that we had a great time in each others company. Each time spent together makes us discover each other over again in so many different ways.