She also pinches and pulls hair.
I know that she does this out of frustrated and excitement most of the time. I also know that this is just a phase, and is normal for their age. It is just that I cannot help but be ashamed to the parents and guardians of her victims specially that there are times when she is the one moving towards the kids only o pinch their nose or bite them somewhere.
Explaining what is happening to my 5-year-old is also very challenging since she got used to being the center of attention and owned her toys to herself for quite some time. She is still adjusting and I know it will take more patience for me to help her understand.
I also need to work on my temper since it is always easy to shout than to pause for a while when frustration sets in, right? Double that with PMS and I go nuts!
The game plan is to let Alex understand sharing and make her avoid getting things from Max so that latter will not bite or hurt in any way the former. I have been telling Max that biting hurts but she does not seem to care. So I have to think of other ways how I can communicate to her that biting is not good. Got suggestions?
Did your kid went through this phase too? Share with me your stories and your tips.
Pag si Elijah kinakagat ako, umiiyak lang ako kunwari. tapos pag naaawa na sya sakin, sasabihin ko joke lang. un lang. haha! tapos uulit na naman. hehe. Si elijah kasi sabik sa mga playmates kaya mejo mabait pa sya pag may ibang bata 🙂
I can’t remember kung naranasan namin yan kahit kanino sa kanila.. but the best thing I can tell you is not make a fuss about it.. pag nagkagat sya just pat her mouth and tell her it’s not good (don’t use the word bad).. then forget all about it.. don’t give her extra attention kase baka minsan kaya nya na ginagawa ay dahil sa attention na nakukuha nya..
I have a 4 1/2 year old and a 22 month old. My 22 month old will pinch, hit, and bite when she is frustrated or wants attention. It’s very annoying and I feel so bad for my older daughter because my younger one will also just go up to her and pull her hair and smack her! My older daughter knows it’s cause her sister can’t communicate perfectly yet but I still feel horrible about it. I can not wait till this phase is over, but a non stop talking toddler is exhausting also! LOL
I feel bad too for my eldest and for the other kids but all I can do is say sorry in my youngest’ behalf even if I know she doesn’t mean to hurt anyone.
I am just cautious with regards to other people, specially those who do not understand that this is a normal phase that toddlers go through.
weLL, im not a mom yet but i’ve witnessed my best friend go through the chaLLenges of being a mom. she gives instructions to her children & when it isn’t followed, she teaches them to say “sorry”. just wanna share a quote from a movie, “kapag nanay ka na, hindi na sayo ang buhay mo”. that i very much understand ‘though i’m not parenting a child yet. it takes a lot of hard work to compose yourseLf when you reach your boiLing point. but everybody’s learning from experience, be it our own or somebody else’s… 🙂
She probably doesn’t understand that since she’s too young. I’m sure she’ll overcome this.
My girls are going through the same thing. Kapag nagdadamot si Ate, kinakagat siya ni little sister. Hahahaha… I try to be the calm referee. But I admit, I blow my top sometimes. And yeah, it gets even tougher when I have my period. I try to pamper myself with the things I love/enjoy so I’ll be more cool-headed and composed. When all 3 of us get grumpy, we go for a walk (Stella in her stroller) and get some fresh air. That usually helps. I talk to my 4 y.o. when it’s just the two of us. I know she feels bad about the changes in her life, but she has no choice but to keep up with the changes and learn to process her own feelings. It’s a lot of work, but I believe that with constant communication, things will become better.
We go through a lot of same things kaya talagang we should meet ip. I bet dami akong matututunan sa iyo!
Alex listens to me naman pag kaming dalawa lang kaya minsan I try my best na masolo nia ako. Pero yun nga, mabilis pang makalimot.
i also have a curious 35 month old girl name Mia. minsan pag sobrang kulit and when we know she wouldn’t listen this is what i did one time:
nagsasampay ako ng mga damit na nilabhan ko then she asked “mommy ano yan?” (pointing to the sipit/ipit). I answered “ipit” then followed it with “hawak lang ha kasi baka maiipit ka masakit i even tried to “ipit” her very very very lightly lang para malaman nya kung talagang masakit (alam ko may possible negative reactions from mommies here pero i did not just do that kasi alam ko masasaktan din baby ko pero para malaman nya ang consequences bago nya itest yung ipit sa sarili nya or sa iba kasi hanggat di nya nararamdaman she wouldn’t know and hindi matututo. Syempre ibang usapan na pag yung totoong nakakasakit na talaga patience lang talaga and calm na pagpapaliwanag kids nowadays nakikinig din naman and sobrang madaling mainstill sa isip nila kung ano yung sinabi mo.
I wouldn’t suggest you do the same thing pero for me effective sya she even helps me now hang her lampins (pampunas nya ng pawis) and panties sa hanger na madaming ipit of course with my supervision 🙂