How do you do it?

After attending the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, I still find myself unable to manage my time properly. I have a full time-time work from 10 AM to 7 PM from Mondays to Fridays. Apart from my day job, I also have a small diaper business. I’m also a breastfeeding mom to Ayex and a wife to Mon. How do you fit your 24 hours a day into these roles?

I actually found myself literally counting the total number of hours in my head one night out of desperation. I am able to attend to my duties as an employee and as a mom but not as a wife. Someone told me before that I am first a wife then a mom. That the children are affected by the relationship of the parents. But how?

I wake up at 8 AM and leave at roughly 8:55 AM. I work from 10 AM to 7 PM. When we do not commute, we arrive at home at roughly 8 PM. By that time, Ayex is already eagerly waiting for us. The best practice would be for me to be full or at least not hungry when we come home so I can feed Ayex when she asks for milk. There would be times when we’ll turn of the lights are 11 PM because Ayex still wants to play. That’s 3 hours of bonding and feeding. By 11 PM or earlier, I can already feel the bed calling onto me. Clearly, I am able to fulfill my employee and mommy duties but not my wifey responsibilities. I don’t even have any time for myself.

I know Mon and I ought to have some adult time too, but how? I’m feeling super guilty already but still don’t know what to do.